• Valentine’s Day Wish List: What to Get For Her

Valentine’s Day Wish List: What to Get For Her

30th January 2013
Each week, Intern Gabi takes the reins, giving the female college student’s perspective on guys’ style. Thankfully, her advice is good for guys of ALL ages. So fellas, listen up:

GUYS, I know you probably hate this holiday (since you made up your own version of it a month later called, ugh, “Steak and BJ Day“) but I want to let you in on a little secret – most girls aren’t all that fond of it either. It’s a lot harder to buy a present for a guy when everything on the shelves is pink and covered in hearts. But when we don’t have you we have to buy ourselves all that chocolate and, well, we tend to go a little overboard.

That’s why today, I’m going try to help you help her fall in love with you AND the holiday all over again with this Valentine’s Day wish list.

You could take the safe road and buy chocolates, flowers or stuffed animals – and yes, any girl would appreciate the effort – but it says a lot more about you as a man and about our relationship if you put a little more thought into a gift. Buying a bouquet of my favorite flower is thoughtful, but buying me something that I know that you wouldn’t have bought for a past girlfriend says that you’re thinking of ME, and not the idea of me.

I know my likes are very niche, so I polled a few of my lady friends for ideas about how they wish their significant other would show the love this year.

My roommate said it best:

“I want something that I can remember instead of have.”

Here are some future memory makers:

Clockwise from top left: A Class; Music; A Trip; Perfume; Jewelry


If your girl is into outdoor activities, plan a biking/camping/exploring trip. Put together a visually stimulating itinerary and present it to her on Valentine’s Day, and save the actual event for a long weekend in nicer weather. You can celebrate with s’mores in the microwave and ambient campfire noise.


Perfume is something I won’t buy myself, which automatically makes it a great gift. I can never commit to one, and most of them just seem overpriced. If you buy it for me I’ll assume you like the smell, so I’ll wear it all the time.

Before you commit to a scent, you should do some research: A) make sure I’ll like it and B) make sure you like it. The sales reps will be eager to help you with your personal and useful V-day gift if you can give them some information. The best way to figure out what kind of scent to get her is to look at her other beauty products clogging up her bathroom sink. Does she have a lot of vanilla flavored things? She’ll probably like something with a note of vanilla. Lotion that’s scented with eucalyptus? Go for a scent that’s a little more earthy. Perfume is an indulgent, feminine thing that she’ll be able to put on everyday, and every time she does she’ll think of you.


There are a lot of things that I like but don’t know how to do, like making sushi and kickboxing. Find something that you would want to learn about as well, and sign us up for a class! We can learn together and get some inside jokes out of it, if no actual new skills. Sites like Groupon and Living Social usually have deals on this kind of activity, so you shouldn’t have too much trouble finding one that interests you and your girl.


I’m totally dated and want a record for the record player from my Holiday Wish List, BUT I guess you could just burn her a playlist from iTunes onto a USB? The medium in which you present it is not the point. I’m pretty sure I’m not alone in saying that I relate certain songs to certain people. Giving someone music gives you the ability to choose the songs they relate to you.

You don’t have to be remembered as “the guy I was seeing when I went through my Ke$ha phase,” {SG note: Hmm, I’m still in my Ke$ha phase…} so don’t settle for that! Mixed tapes are cliché in the best way because they are inherently personalized. Burn a playlist of some songs that you think she’ll like or even introduce her to a new artist in her favorite genre.

Want to go the extra mile? Surprise her a week later with tickets to a concert featuring a band or artist on the mixtape.


If you do want to take a more traditional route, jewelry is always a safe bet, BUT! Don’t buy her something that’s so *obviously* Valentine’s Day, like an infinity heart necklace {SG note: PREACH Gabi! And let’s put a moratorium on those Tiffany’s charm bracelets while we’re at it..}.

If your girl is trendy, look for an interesting piece, maybe in an unconventional shape or a strange material, and if your girl is classic try something dainty.

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Tell Me:

What was the best Valentine’s Day gift you’ve ever given or received? How do you make Valentine’s Day special?

  • Ben

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  • Chris Jones

    I don’t expect presents for v-day (since its not a holiday for us), so it shouldn’t be too stressful on the ladies. I just want my steak and BJ when it comes time :)

  • TJ

    I’ll have just moved to a new city, where I don’t know anyone, when valentine’s day comes around, so it’ll be just a regular day for me. Maybe I’ll try speed dating though.

    • gabi meyers

      That sounds like the perfect way to celebrate!

  • GrayLikeTheColour

    +1 on the mix tape, especially if she is a music fiend, but why not take it one step further and make it on an actual cassette tape? A bit more of an effort to find the necessary gear to sort it for sure but, if you can get your hands on a cassette recorder with a line in and pick up a cheap 2nd hand walkman, it’s an instant nostalgia hit (provided you were an 80s baby) with decent originality/novelty factor!

    • gabi meyers

      I like your ingenuity! That sounds like the perfect gift for Charlize Theron’s character Mavis from Young Adult, who is awesome.

  • james

    What do you give a girl you just started dating recently?this is our first holiday. I don’t want to go overboard and come n too strong.

    • gabi meyers

      I think taking a class together would be a great option! It gives you more time to get to know each other. Plus it’s kind of like a date/present hybrid, so you can play it off in either direction if you think getting her an actual present would be coming on too strong. Give her a funny card with the vouchers (or tickets? not sure what to call them) and an info packet on the class. Or something related…like if you go to a sushi making class, get her a sushi pillow.

  • Dominic

    What do you give to a girl who lives on the other side of the world who you have already given a diamond necklace? Is it now time for the rose and chocolates?

    • Attis

      That’s exactly why I am here, and buying just flowers and chocolate isn’t the greatest thing.

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  • gabi meyers

    Oh but that’s so cute! I’m sure she loved it.