Your Style Girlfriend

    Valentine’s Day Do’s and Don’t's

    11th February 2013
    Happy Valentine’s Day Week!

    {image: etsy}

    …Ha, jk. That’s totally not a thing.

    But it IS the right time to start thinking about what you’re getting your lady this Thursday. Yes, it’s totally cool if you’re only just now starting to think about it.

    Below, my do’s and don’ts for playing this game we call love:

    DO surprise her.

    Why not send the special lady in your life flowers today? Or better, today, on Thursday, and again next Wednesday? They don’t have to be roses – better if they’re not, actually, since they’re a bit, well, obvious this time of year. If you know her favorite flower then double points to you. There’s something nice about showing your girl you’re not confined to appreciating her on days appointed by the drugstore greeting card aisle.

    Oh, and pro tip? You can buy a really – like, really – nice bouquet of flowers at your local grocery store. Pay your buddy five bucks to deliver them to your lady’s office, and you’ll save yourself a nice bit of cheddar.

    DO write a note.

    {technique’s a little iffy, but the sentiment is spot-on}

    I’m not saying you need to make this year’s Valentine’s Day greeting card yourself (though, bonus points if you do, and it doesn’t even have to look that nice for her to love it), but you absolutely need to write a personal message on the inside of the card. If you’re going the Hallmark route, I suggest funny card = romantic note. Or vice versa. (But preferably the former.)

    DO get mushy.

    What to put in the card?

    Literally, every single thing you can think of that you love (or, depending on the timeline of the relationship, like) about her.

    The way her breath miraculously doesn’t smell in the morning. That purple dress she wears that’s like, boom-boom-BAM. Her endearing inability to chop onions. Whatever. Just tell her.

    DON’T be practical.

    {Diptyque ‘Baies’ candle, $60}

    Valentine’s Day is not the holiday for a present she can use. Really. Get her something totally ridiculous, or totally luxe. My favorite candles in the world are from Diptyque, and they’re…well, they’re not cheap for candles. One of these, and I’d be a happy girl.

    DO one-up her.

    Agree ahead of time “not to make Valentine’s Day a big deal” or whatever level of expectation you set, but then go, like, 10% nicer than you agreed on.

    Let’s be honest, this day is for her, not for you, so one-up her this time and she’ll be grateful, not annoyed.

    DON’T go out to dinner.

    {Overpriced prix-fixe meal? No thank you}

    Valentine’s Day is the worst for dining out. You know all those chefs are phoning it in, treating you like a tourist who’s bound never to return again, or at least, not till next year. And besides, it’s so cliche. Valentine’s Day at Le Whatever or whatever the fancy “romantic” restaurant is in town? You can do better.

    DO keep treating her just as well tomorrow as you do today.



    Tell me (so long as your wife or girlfriend doesn’t read SG):
    What do you have up your sleeve for V-Day?
    • average joe

      Good advice SG. I worked in restaurants all the way through college in Chicago and I can say V-day is no day to take her out to a restaurant.

      • Style Girlfriend

        Oh man, what a rough day to be on duty..

        • average joe

          we called it amateur night :-)

    • johnnytran

      Not gonna lie, I still see “BABIES” each time I see that candle picture.

      • Style Girlfriend

        Glad it’s not just me!!

    • Michael Bailey

      I had the most incredibly romantic Valentines day plans for this year, but unfortunately my plans outlasted the relationship. On the upside, I’ve saved myself a ton of money, so maybe I’ll buy myself a bespoke suit as a V-day present to myself. :)

    • TJ

      I’m single at the moment, so maybe a steak dinner for one?

    • Robert

      My wife’s getting her first little blue box from Tiffany this year…thought it’d be a nice change from flowers or dinners out somewhere, though usually not on the 14th specifically. Every year, she tries to get me “not to buy anything for her” or “spend too much if I do” which, of course, I always do anyway. She’s not too into jewelry, but I think that a sterling silver necklace/pendant combo is something she can wear with just about anything, dressy or not.

    • Enrique Ollero

      Ever since we found out about the release date, my fiancee and I have planned to spend Valentine’s Day seeing Die Hard 5. The fact that she instantly said that’s what we were doing is one of the many fantastic reasons I asked her to marry me.

      On the gift front I know she’s been eyeing a newly released size of Chloe perfume – it’s her favorite scent and was excited that this newer size meant she wouldn’t have to spend as much. So I’m going to get her the full size version since she really won’t be expecting it.

      I will echo the no dining out. We’ll be dining in on home made surf and turf that we cook together.

      • TJ

        That is awesome. I can confidently say that none of my exes would ever have wanted to go see that on valentine’s day. Hold on to her man.

    • DanielDanTastic
      • Style Girlfriend

        Always the romantic, Daniel.

    • pz

      SG: what about tips for a girl I am trying to woo but won’t be able to hang out with on V-Day? A someecard perhaps? :) (and no worries, dinner was never an option anyways)

      • Style Girlfriend

        Send something – anything – to her work. Girls love getting stuff at the office. Seriously. LOVE. IT.

    • Kara

      Yes! Yes! I’m a girl and I approve of this message!! Well said:)

      • Style Girlfriend

        I love it! See guys? Seconded!